Are you one of these people who don’t set their yearly goals? Or do you set them but just in your head? Do you not set goals for yourself because you don’t know what gaols to set? Or do your really believe that goal setting is a waste of time because they don’t come true anyway, it’s like playing the lottery?
On my Facebook page I asked
My friends if they set yearly goals. Their first answer was that they didn’t have material goals. Hmm ok I didn’t know that they thought goals setting was just for material things, but good to know anyway.
So I asked them “what are your none material goals?”
- peace of mind
- to be happy
- to find a partner
- to live in the moment
What I got out of asking that question was a lot of goal setting dosen’t work. But you know me I don’t take simple answers I have to dig deeper. I want more fulfilling answers.
Fulfilling was my word of the year for 2014
So I got digging
I started off with
- If your goal is to have peace of mind, how do you want to reach that goal?
- If you want to be happy, how are you planning on reaching that goal?
- Also, how will you find that partner?
I asked questions of HOW,WHEN, WHAT and WHY
By digging deeper
I got them to tell me their goals.
The funny thing was that they didn’t see them as goals but as wishes to what they wanted to have.
- I don’t want to spend another Christmas on my own
- I want to go on holiday with my family
- I want to spend more money on myself
- I want to find out what makes me happy
These material and none material things are what their heart desires but sometimes they are afraid to speak them out to the world and most importantly to themselves.
Seeing goals as a waste of time
The reason why they thought that setting goals or planning out their goals was a waste of time was because they never came true. They never happened.
They believed that if you set goals and plan them out, you leave no room for spontaneity. By planning everything out you lived a boring life.
So really it had everything to do with their mind set.
Goal setting is a waste of time which is what they believed to be true, so it ended up being true. Do you follow? You see what they believed to be true became true, which again was goal setting doesn’t work.
They didn’t take goal setting to the next level, their goals were not a must for them but a may be, if it works kind of thing. You know the half hearted kind of goals setting.
How I set goals and plan them out
First I write down all the things that I want for the year or the years to come. I don’t say what I would like but the things that I want.
You see would like is not a strong enough word for me. It’s like way too polite. I believe that the universe needs to know that I realllly want it and not just think that it would be ok if I got it and ok if I didn’t. Would like is another word for I hope to have it. Hope is a future word and therefor will always stay out in the future and not come into the present.
So I say I want
After writing everything that I can think of what I want to do, I then take a look at when I want them.
Let’s take a look at one of my goals for 2015
I don’t want to celebrate my 40th birthday with a big party ( I don’t like big parties, not my thing). I want to be on my own with hubby somewhere. So I asked myself where would I like to go and what would I like to do? So I decided I want to be on the ship Aida.
So I have my where and when. I put this plan into my calendar and worked backwards. What needs to be done to be on the Aida for my birthday? I then write everything that needs to be done down on paper. You know like booking a room on the boat. Finding out how much it will cost, and if I need to save? If so how long will it take me to do so? Do I need new clothes (what a silly questions YES I always need new clothes). Then I plan out when all my to-do’s need to be done by, then do them. Booking, saving and my fav. shopping
Right, you say that one was way too easy
Let’s try the To be happy one
You start by asking yourself, what makes you happy? Then journal everything down that makes you happy.
- What small things make you happy?
- What used to make you happy as a child,
- What did you like doing that made you laugh out loud?
- Where were you the happiest?
- When were you the happiest?
- How could you bring more happiness into your life right now?
Ok so lets get journaling about what makes you happy?
- Is it eating ice-cream?
- Going to the movies?
- Meeting friends?
- Reading a book?
- Getting your hair and nails done?
- Dancing around in circles with no clothes on listening to Madonna? (Got that one from the film “Working Girl”)
After you have found out what makes you happy then you choose a day of the week and schedule the happiness into your calendar
There you go another easy-peasy task done. You will now have more fun in your life if you only schedule it in and follow through with it.
Do the same if you are looking for Mr. Right.
Ask your self questions.
- What type of man do I want
- Where will I most likely find him?
- What are his interests?
- Do I need to be going to the same places he does?
- Do I need a friend to help me?
The first step is always to write down your goals on paper
Then make a to-do list of what you need to do to reach that goal.
- Break them down into little steps, so you don’t give up before you start.
- Schedule the baby steps into you calendar
- And implement
OHHHH Most important Have Fun Along The Way!!!!!!
Over to you
What are your goals?
Please leave a comment below. You never know when your goal might be helping then next person make their list.