I’m excited and honored to be a guest speaker for Susan’s wonderful blog.
I love Tuesday Tips and that email is the first one I open on Tuesdays!
Of course, when you are asked to contribute an article, the first thought is:
“What shall I write about?”
As a life coach, something I am asked a lot about is finding time….
men never seem to bring this up, but women do, all the time. Not so much to find the time to get things done, because we do that, anyway, right?
I’m talking about time for self-care.
That is, Restore-Relax-Rejuvenate-Replenish one’s self.
My opinion is:
If you don’t take care of yourself, someone else might have to!
Last year, I promoted something I called The Great Retreat, both in the U.S., and internationally.
On a certain day, people in all sorts of locations stopped and took time for themselves.
For some, it was a few minutes, a half hour, half day, all day, whatever they wanted to do.
I gave them ideas and some suggestions.
I will tell you that a few people thought it was a dumb idea (go figure) while others thought it was one of the best ideas they had heard of. Yet another friend in Norway said she had not heard of the concept, yet she promoted it for me to her community.
READY TO TAKE SOME TIME?
- Decide that you can have some time to yourself-you don’t need big bits of time all at once
- Look for the time(s) (sometimes, time hides out in little places)
- Understand it’s your right to have time just for you
WHERE TO FIND TIME
- For a young mother, it might be in the bathroom for a few moments
- In the shower
- On a walk
- Looking out the window
- Being in, or looking at, nature
- Sitting still
- Enjoying preparing a meal
- Again, sitting still
…and on, and on.
Susan has suggested to us that we set aside a certain day each week as Self-Care Day, and I heartily endorse this. There are pockets of time in every day, no matter how busy, when we can say to ourselves,“I am on a retreat right now-this minute!”
If you aren’t taking time now for yourself, please begin.
Nothing fancy is required, and not even money.
There is a payoff in everything we do. Taking care of yourself inspires huge bonuses of self-realization, awareness, renewed energy, increased vitality, a sense of well-being.
Here’s the deal:
You choose ONE thing: Time for you
You get a bunch of things in return:
- Stop feeling sorry for yourself; unappreciated
- You get back in charge
- You find out you are valuable
- …and on, and on, and on!
The Art of Stillness-Adventures In Going Nowhere, by Pico Iyer
Read the book and watch the talk-Pico Iyer’s 14-minute TED Talk available online:
Remember: This talk can be a 14-minute retreat!
“In an age of constant movement, nothing is more urgent than sitting still”
The Woman’s Retreat Book, A Guide to Restoring, Rediscovering, and Reawakening Your True Self-in a Moment, an Hour, or a Weekend by Jennifer Louden
This books will help you find the time to retreat, decide whether to retreat at home, away, or with others, separate from daily concerns, and reenter daily life renewed.
The Gift You Give Yourself
What matters is the giving of the gift to the best recipient I know: YOU.
Go for it.
Start today. Start small, if you wish, but…START.
Sandy is a certified life coach and lives and works in the San Francisco Bay Area.
She facilitates a SoulCollage© group as well and is a trained Law of Attraction instructor.
Thank you Sandy Dear for this wonderful post.