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How to create a self-care routine just for you
We all want to be healthy, happy, and fulfilled. We all want to be our best selves, live our best lives, and take care of ourselves. But making ourselves a priority can often seem challenging, if not impossible in some cases. There are too many things to worry about, too many tasks to get done, and too many other people to think about and nurture.
Here’s the thing, though:
Self-care is essential to living a healthy, happy, and fulfilling life.
If we don’t take care of ourselves, we’re setting ourselves up for unhappiness, burnout, and even resentment and failure.
At its core, self-care is the proactive, ongoing practice of maintaining and enhancing our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. “So what does that really look like?” I hear you ask.
Well, sweetie, the truth is, I can’t tell you.
Much as I hope you will add self-care to your daily routine, I can’t tell you exactly what you should be doing.
Self-care looks different for everyone.
There are loads of blog posts and social media posts offering inspiration and suggestions, but there really is no “one-size-fits-all” approach to self-care. Your self-care routine has to suit YOU!
So here are 6 tips for creating a self-care routine that’s just for you.
1. Get clear on your needs, wants and desires.
Your self-care practice is only going to be effective if it enhances your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, and helps you to feel your best and do your best even when life gets difficult. Grab a pen and paper, and ask yourself these questions:
- What do I need more of in my life?
- What do I need less of in my life?
- What and who makes me feel good?
- What and who makes me feel drained, stressed, or unhappy?
- What small changes am I ready to make right now to improve my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being?
2. Identify why having a self-care routine is important to you.
Make a list of all the ways a self-care routine will benefit you and the people (and furry friends!) in your life. Keep this list somewhere easy to see. Perhaps write a commitment pledge that you can stick on your wall as a reminder that your self-care is non-negotiable – not only do you deserve to take care of yourself; you need to.
3. Make time in your schedule for activities that nourish you, energize you, relax you, and uplift you.
- These activities don’t need to be complicated or time-consuming. They just need to be good for you.
- Be sure to choose a few simple self-care activities that you can do on a daily basis. This will make it much easier to make self-care a habit.
- Create reminders for yourself in your planner or on your phone to make sure you don’t forget your plan.
- Track your self-care activities and take note of how they make you feel.
4. Tell the people in your life that you are making self-care a priority.
- Let people know that you are making yourself and your needs a priority. Explain how you would like them to support you, and if your self-care activities will affect them in any way, let them know but stick your guns!
- Be sure to set clear boundaries, delegate tasks whenever possible, and don’t be afraid to say no to requests that conflict with your values and priorities.
5. Make a plan for dealing with setbacks and obstacles.
- Brainstorm all the possible obstacles and barriers that could get interfere with your self-care plans.
- Write down all the solutions that come to mind for addressing these barriers.
How will you remind yourself and stay committed to your plan?
6. Be open-minded and gentle with yourself.
- Self-care is something that is just for you. Experiment with a variety of approaches and find out what works for you.
- Don’t beat yourself up for missing a self-care activity. It’s OK. We all do it! Forgive yourself and focus on the present. What’s done is done. What do you need now? What can you do to take care of yourself now?
Self-care is one of the most important,
and possibly simplest, ways that we can practice compassionate self-love on a daily basis. So, let me know in the comments, what is one thing you can do today to nourish yourself and enhance your wellbeing?
And if you’re ready to take your self-love to the next level, check out my FREE Self-love Booster, a 5 day e-course to help you kickstart your self-love practice and start treating yourself with unconditional love, compassion, and respect.
Thank you Kirsten for this lovely post.
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